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以罪恶感辖制他 Guilt

By 作者:柯丽文; 译者:小瓦 把罪恶感当作武器来对付你所爱的人,实在是一种危险的策略;虽然在短时间内可能让你心想事成,但却绝对会有损于你们的关系,也会荡然扫去爱人之间的亲密。扪心自问,你是否曾经心怀不满地冲著他说过:“你要是爱我,就会照著做了。”或者曾以一句“你去做吧,别顾及我的想法”收尾,却又别有用心地伴以一声长叹?若是如此,小心!十有八九你是在以罪恶感辖制对方了。 利用罪恶感来对付人,就意味著你对这人的爱是建立在某些条件上,你正逐渐毁掉两人之间的亲密。当你以罪恶感操纵对方时,是在要求他必须照你的心愿办事情,否则你就不再爱他了。也就是说,你置自己于权威的地位上,唯有当对方俯首称臣了... >Full Story

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哭 Cry

By 钱珊丽 我从小就爱哭真的很爱哭。我可以坐在那儿哭上好久好久,把自己哭成一滩泥,哭成一条河。我可以哭到隔壁王家的胖太太怒冲冲地出现在门口,指责我的哭声坏了她手上的一付牌。 我的第一声哭泣为的是召告天下,但是很不幸,不太管用。因为我的母亲哭得比我还凶,在连续生了二个女儿后,她已经无力再承受第三个。因此她哭,我也哭,我们的哭声混成一团,只是她停止后,我依旧在哭。 稍大一点,印象中,二姐是回应我哭泣最多的人,她会惜惜我(台语),我真喜欢那种感觉,比吃糖还好,好上太多。因此... >Read More



从一九五八年谈起From 1958…

By 钱珊丽 如果你查明台湾历史,一九五八年绝不是什么好年头。八月二十三日那天海峡对岸发出了吼声,就在全台誓死捍卫中国「接收」的「八二三」隆隆炮声中,九月九日我出生了。 妈妈说,当时情况真得很不好,爸爸任职的警界受紧急征召,所有军警都动员起来,整整一个多月的时间,根本见不著他的人影。当然,他不可能来迎接我这个「生错时辰」的婴儿;更何况,在连续生了二个女儿后,他更是兴致缺缺,没有心情去逗弄这个「投错胎」的女儿。 我一直感到我的出生,是没有人祝福、没有人记念的。爸爸连名字都... >Read More



别让家庭塞满旧包袱

After the multi-party talks and engage in marital counseling, I am sure there is a more unusual topic, highlighting its strong lethality destroy marriages today. Poor communication? Money disputes? Sexual disharmony? For decades these issues... >Read More



第二课: 经历神的爱与赦免

一件很小的事情都会令我们大叫或骂咒别人,例如你驾车时被近距离超越,或你被同学侮辱,或你的配偶忘记来接你等等。或许你因受到其它的行为之诱惑而使你注意的焦点远离神,比如说别人的闲话或憎恨别人等。 这些思想和行为统称为「罪」。「罪」这个字的意思是达不到目标或者不能命中靶心。当我们按着自己的意思,而不是按神的心意去做事时,我们便犯了罪。当旧习惯和思想蠢蠢欲动的时候,千万不要灰心丧志。你仍然是神的儿女。然而,罪妨碍我们与神的亲密关系以及与神的交通。罪也会妨碍我们经历神的爱。 我们... >Read More


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